Although gay weddings and straight weddings are essentially the exact same thing, there are a few things you have to account for and remember when planning gay weddings that you don’t normally have to think about when planning straight weddings. The thing is that since there are people opposed to gay marriage still and not everyone has seen two men or two women kiss before, it could be shocking and there could be issues during the wedding. I wanted to create this post for people who are planning a gay wedding and wanted to help them to think of things that unfortunately do happen so you can try to address them in case they do and have a solution ready.
Protesters.
The unfortunate thing about gay weddings is that there may be people protesting if the anti gay groups find out you are having a gay wedding in their area. Although most of the protesters are not violent and they just like to yell and shout a lot, make sure that the people who are attending your wedding just ignore them so they don’t accidentally escalate a potential bad situation. By ignoring them they lose focus and don’t usually cross over to your actual wedding, if someone provokes them then sometimes they do cross the line. The other thing to remember is to have music.
No one wants anti gay chanting in the background of their wedding vows. Make sure that if there are protesters at your wedding you have the chapel sound proofed or test it before hand to see if you can hear the people outside. The other thing is to have some sort of speaker system with classical music or Madonna or whatever music you like playing for when you leave the chapel so when you are your partner are walking out and the wedding video shows you getting into your limo there is only music and happiness and no negative protester chants.
The Guests Making Comments and Inviting Other Guests.
Although it is great to be able to get legally married, your gay wedding is not the place to talk about politics. Nothing is more annoying than someone coming up, especially a stranger, and going on for 10 minutes about how it is finally time they passed gay marriage. Gay people are happy and love the fact that many straight people support us, but at our weddings we want to be happy and think good happy thoughts. You wouldn’t go on and on about those topics at a straight wedding so don’t go on and on about them to the brides or grooms at a gay wedding. You also need to make sure that if your guests are bringing guests that the guests they bring are not homophobic or end up being homophobic after they have had a few drinks. I don’t think I need to go into that one much more lol.
Inappropriate conversations.
Regardless if the guests have been to a gay wedding, know a million gay people or this is their first time ever seeing a gay couple, it is rude to act like a fag hag or hang all over the couple. It is their day and a day to showcase them. Don’t hog the spotlight or try to take it and don’t hang all over either of them. Let them be with each other and talk to them after the wedding. It is also rude to talk about straight marriage and how gay people are so much like straight people and how gay weddings are just like straight weddings. Although you may not think it is rude, it actually is.
Everything else is pretty much standard and on par. If you are planning a wedding, watch for protesters out front and if you see people in the crowd that could end up being an issue, alert the authorities or if they are attending the wedding, go talk to them real quick and let them know what the proper protocol is and what is inappropriate. If you notice guests clinging to the couple or separating them, especially the fag hags, pull them aside and politely remind them of whose day it is. The person may get offended but the couple will thank you. The best thing to do is to trust your instincts. If the couple seems annoyed then fix the problem and if you see an issue that can be avoided, solve it. Other than that you should be fine.
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